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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My BF make $250k but pays alimony and child support to his 2 kids, ages 7 and 9. His ex-wife is a SAHM (does not work and has no skills or education).  I haven't met his kids yet but they seem great and would be great stepbrothers to our future LOs. BF fully expects to pay for his kids' colleges, as he should.  I haven't asked BF his monthly budget, but I'm seriously worried about getting really serious with him, marrying, and having 2 kids of our own and struggling because of his kids and alimony. I make $120k. I wonder if I should I get out before we get too serious.[/quote]

For one his ex should be going back to work, and alimony dropped. There is no reason for her to be home if she is healthy. The kids are school age. I would be concerned your bf agreed to this.

How long does she get the alimony for?

His kids are going to be pretty old by the time you have kids. You never know what the situation will be. They may resent or not like your own, (or you) this happens a lot. You may not like his. I had a friend who got along ok with his kids when they were little, BUT that changed, it got to the point neither liked each other well into adult hood. His kids may not want their dad making more babies, nor the ex.  This can make for miserable times for all involved when his kids are visiting.

I've seen very FEW blended families that work, so please research it.  [/quote]

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