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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here, if they would be content with an hour visit each week then we would not be having any problems since this is what they are currently doing. [b]The problem I have is that they aren't coming over to help me-I had a c-section and was in the hospital a while and they got upset that I didn't want visitors, I was in pain when they would come over to visit the baby and I really didn't want anyone over-and they wouldn't ask me how I was doing. [/b][b]My mother in law has also mentioned that this grandchild will belong to her and love her the most which I think is bizarre.[/b]  My mother came over to make sure I was ok to help me get around the house, if I don't need help she finds other non baby things to do. I'm sure that I am being selfish by not wanting to share my daughter but we had a rough journey getting her here and I just don't want to have to entertain visitors especially not someone who makes me feel like they are trying to replace me. [/quote]

I don't know how people are ignoring this post from the OP.  This is crazy, awful, manipulative, controlling behavior on the part of the OP's in-laws.

OP's baby is 5 weeks old.  She's recovering from a c-section.  She wants a little time and space to recover from the birth and to take care of a baby that (according to her) she had a difficult time bringing into this world.  OP's needs and desires are completely legitimate here.  If her in-laws were stopping by once a week to offer the type of assistance OP is looking for (like someone to do laundry or pick up around the house a little bit), that would be great.  Instead, her in-laws are coming over and completely taking over baby care.  Maybe that will be something OP needs/wants a few weeks or months from now, but right now she wants to recover from her surgery and enjoy her baby, and she doesn't want to have to fight against her MIL for the position of "who this grandchild will belong to and love the most."  I have a boundary-encroaching MIL and if she said something like that I would absolutely lose my shit.

I'm sorry you're going through this, OP.  People who don't have family members that cross boundaries just don't get it.[/quote]

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