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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

Wow...thank you so much to everyone.   There is a lot to read.

1.  I am actually a little stunned that everyone feels it is so much of a threat.   I was wondering if I was taking this too seriously.  He DOES live pretty far away (about 1000 miles) so I've felt fairly confident I would not have to come in contact with him in person, except at the race last month.   The fact that all of you are taking this more seriously makes me wonder if Im in denial and should take it more seriously.

2.  Some posters have said this sounds familiar, but I did not post about a stalker before.

3.  Someone mentioned that I should pretend I have a horrible disease...that would not work with this guy.   Several times in his attempts to contact me he has said something along the lines of "Please let me know that you are ok."  I think if I gave any impression that I was not "ok" he'd be concerned and the attempts to contact would increase even more.

These were hard responses to read;  I didn't think this was as grave a concern as you all think it is, which scares me.   Thank you for taking the time to show me that this IS a bigger problem than I realized.[/quote]

I thought you said 100 miles.  Not that it changes my response in any way.[/quote]

No, 1000 miles.   I did a mapquest search and my zipcode to his zipcode is 980 miles.

People have asked about the extent of the flirting.    Mostly things like he would tell me I'm hot and that he wished we could be together, etc.   I would encourage the discussion more by saying things like "Really?   What would happen if we were together?"  and encourage him to continue on...not to the point of "sexting" or anything even close to that--he seemed to almost write in romance novel style with "passionate kisses" and "look deep into your eyes so I can see your soul"  and the like.  That's not really my "thing" and I find it creepy.   I'm honestly not sure why I encouraged it for a few weeks.   
A more honest, less "flirty" response would have been to shut it down immediately with "Thanks, but I'm married" and change the subject.
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Even if you encouraged it for a few weeks - when you tell someone "no" and "not to contact you again" and they continue to the extent this guy does, its a problem.[/quote]

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