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[quote=Anonymous]I'll say OP's complaint about "I don't look forward to going to work every day" didn't help her cause any, making her look like a SAH stereotype. Also -- OP's not finishing her degree seems weird, like she has a lack of stick-to-it drive.

As to OP's divorce:
1) Her DH was fine with her SAH while the kid was younger and was also fine with her taking on a low-paying job that allowed for maximum school flexibility + flexibility with his job. This is factored during alimony decisions, along with what the wife's been up to, age, etc. OP isn't a 35-year-old college-educated woman that's been SAH for 3-4 years and has 30 or so potential working years ahead of her.

2) I find it difficult to see why OP wouldn't get half the assets in a divorce.

3) OP has nothing to lose, really, she can drag this out and get *really* vicious. Her DH making threats like that won't help his cause at all, and a mid-50s woman who's SAH/worked low end jobs for years and whose husband is filing for divorce is a prime candidate for the sort of sob story that leads to lifetime alimony (or at least until she goes on Social Security).

4) PP who said the husband was just waiting it out until the kid was spot on. Now whether this was so DH "could find himself" or because DH decided several years ago that OP was barely competent as a SAH (justified or unjustified), I don't know. (An example of justified concern would be if OP had the ability level of Cancer Guy's wife.) [/quote]

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