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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op,  take this for what it's worth. I think it's a matter of perspective,  not changing the places you look.

As background,  I'm a guy in my late 30s, with a kid,  who went to good schools and has a good job as a lawyer. I've also been divorced about a year.  My ex was "super accomplished" and I'm inherently attracted to that type for many of the reasons you describe -  it just feels more natural to me in how I interact with others.

That said,  many of my dates with professional / accomplished women haven't been great.  They tend to be more intellectual,  which can be very stimulating,  but does not often lead to an emotional or romantic connection. I often leave such dates feeling flat.  In addition, as a PP noted, I often find professional women very impressed with themselves and their accomplishments.  I'm sure many guys are likewise self-impressed,  but I purposely don't hang out with them. In my opinion,  being an accomplished professional in DC is not really that unique.  It's a dime a dozen with lots of people who went to good schools with important jobs.  I know that about myself.  A good career doesn't mean I'm a special snowflake or that my shit doesn't stink. I get turned off when a date has an air suggesting that I have to impress her.  I'd much rather relate as a basic human being,  discussing wants,  needs,  and desires,  than engage in such an enterprise.

Most if this pertains to women in their 30s. Younger women tend not to be interested because I have a kid.  And I've yet to be able to get a date with women in the 40s — despite matching on apps,  they've never panned out.  Oh well.

Which leads me to my final point,  baggage.  I love my son with all my heart and he is the joy of my life. I wish I could see him more than the 50% I do.  But I can't, because he's with his mom,  who's great with him. So I date when I don't have him. And in that world,  the dating world,  having a kid can be a problem.  I've had many women say they weren't ready to date a guy with a kid or not interested in someone who already had a priority in their life.  And I understand that this significantly reduces the dating pool.  As you're age probably does for you.  Many guys in their 30s, 40s, and 50s want to have kids.  So they trey to find women young enough to have them. Whether you can or not,  I don't know,  but many guys will assume you can't. You might have better luck if you think of yourself with a great woman with baggage, rather than just as "a catch." I know at least I would relate to that better.  And it might help you filter better.  Is looking for divorced 50yo a good strategy  for you? I dunno,  depends on how much they want to procreate.  You may be better off with a younger guy who already has a kid and doesn't want more,  as they have more "energy."

I'm sorry if this is preachy,  and I know nothing here is that insightful.  But I'm hoping this helps.   [/quote]

You sounds adorable. I'd date you (not OP).[/quote]
Ha!
I was just about to write the same thing.
I felt a little "flutter" by the time I got to the last paragraph.
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