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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I'm really sad to see all of the armchair tough guys on this thread giving you impractical and useless advice.  I was in a situation not unlike your daughter's in middle school. My parents moved, and I changed from a nice suburban school to an awful urban rustbelt school in the middle of seventh grade.  I was physically bullied a lot.  Here are some thoughts:
 
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It's interesting, because I find your advice impractical and useless as well. [b]OP's daughter is highly unlikely to go down the tough-guy macho manly rabbit hole[/b].[/quote]

You're absolutely right.  i (over) shared my experience to try to make the point that bullying is a big deal and the effects go on after the actual day-to-day violence has stopped.  I'm sure OP's daughter's reaction and subsequent life trajectory will be different, but these things have a lasting impact, even into adulthood.

I'm trying to motivate OP to do what my parents never did --- to take this seriously and take serious action (changing schools, therapy, police).  Instead of actually DOING something, my mom gave me dumb advice that made her feel like she was helping and let her avoid doing any actual hard work.  Our relationship never recovered from that, BTW, and I moved out when I was 18 and never looked back.

Which advice was impractical and useless, specifically?  Getting therapy?  Changing schools?  Finding a real self defense program aimed at women and girls (IMPACT)?  Why are those things a bad idea?  I'm curious to hear your ideas and knowledge and life experience that they are based on.  [/quote]

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