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[quote=Anonymous]We both have fulltime jobs - I've always worked - the difference is that his job is stressful so he needs to unwind when he gets home which prevents him from doing anything around the house other than sitting in front of the tv with a drink. The thing is - my job is equally if not more stressful at times (i'm a director at an agency so clients and deadlines) and I don't get to do that. When he was unemployed for 9 months and I was the sole breadwinner he was too depressed to do anything around the house because searching for a job was stressful. No mention how maybe things were stressful for me too.

When he wanted to go back to school we went into major debt with the hopefully return being a financial stable career.  When I wanted to go back to school for the same reason we didn't suddenly couldn't find the funds, and this time it didn't make sense for us to go into debt in order to further *my* career.

He went back to school while working full time meaning he was gone from the house from 9 am until 9pm - he only saw the kids on the weekend because we were gone in the morning before he woke up,  and they were asleep when he got home. So 100% my responsibility. After a year of this he quit his job to just go to school (still only at night) but there was no change in his contribution with the kids or around the house. Years later I was up for a promotion but it would require me to work different hours - which meant he'd have to be responsible for the kids in the evening until I got home. I had to turn down the promotion because he wouldn't pick up the kids from their after school program at 6 every night. [/quote]

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