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[quote=Anonymous]I only read the first page.

I understand your child not wanting to return to college. That's exactly how I felt after the first semester of my freshman year. The college I attended was not a fit for me, and I knew it almost immediately.

It sounds like your daughter would be happier at a smaller, friendlier school. She may need some counseling at school if she likes the school, but feels frustrated socially.

My freshman DD has some social/anxiety issues, but she's had a lot of coaching/counseling, and she did very well socially at her very small liberal arts college. She's itching to go back second semester because she has so many friends there, unlike high school where she had almost none.

I think it might make sense to open the door to a new college, but ask her to go back for one semester while she works on finding a better fit. You've paid for the second semester already, right? Find her some counseling, and work with her to find a new school.

I know two kids a year ahead of DD who have already switched colleges.  One chose a very competitive SLAC, and hated the competition, so left to go to a large, relaxed state U, whereas the other one chose an rural SLAC and left to go to an urban university.

If she likes her roommate, that's huge, OP! That's a place to start giving her confidence to make it through the second semester, knowing it's not her fault, and that the school is not a fit. But counseling would help her look ahead to the new school.

BTW, my DD was able to reinvent herself at college, which is why she was able to make a lot of friends. In high school she was seen as introverted and "different," and as she developed, it was hard for her to shake that label. But in college, she started out with the goal of making friends. The coaching and counseling she got helped her know what to do to accomplish that goal.

Best of luck to you, OP. I know how hard it is when your child is unhappy. [/quote]

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