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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I bet you're a real peach, too.[/quote]

Sorry.   On MIl side on this one.  You sound like one of those annoying new Moms who thinks the world revolves  around you and your kids nap time and nothing else matters.  Sorry, but that's annoying to all rational people.  Signed -Mother of two.  [/quote]

All the bitter moms with only boys are in full force on this thread. Sorry, ladies, but your future DIL WILL run the show, no matter how pissy and passive aggressive you are. [/quote]

This mom of a boy thinks my kids nap schedule is my business and everyone else can shut the hell up. In my experience the same people who bitch about people who are "nap nazis" also bitch about kids who act up when they are overtired. You can't win.

Hopefully I will be supportive of my future DIL in ways my mil wasn't. [/quote]

Mom of 2 boys here. I used to be a nap Nazi when I had only 1 child. That went out the window when 2nd was born. 2nd was dragged anywhere and everywhere. If we were tied to his nap schedule, we would never get out of the house. DS2 fell asleep in the car, stroller, baby carrier. He was fine.

Our family would visit us in those early years. We had too much gear to travel out of state for holidays.[/quote]

And let me just guess. You describe your overtired, cranky 2nd boy's out-of-control behavior as "spirited"? Yep. Thought so.[/quote]

Not sure why the nasty tone.

My kids are now 4 and 6. They don't nap and are generally well behaved. We are very social and hang out with friends multiple times per week.

When the younger one was a baby, we dragged him to play dates and outings. He would easily fall asleep in the car or stroller. When the younger one was a toddler, he was awesome. Then he turned 2 and was a bit of a disaster. He was a handful with or without naps. I did not make excuses. He started daycare at 2 and would nap there. On weekends, he often would not nap or fall asleep in the car.

Age 2 was both with both kids. That was probably my least favorite year. My boys are a delight now. We get to travel and very few tantrums.[/quote]

You don't get to use the term "nap Nazi" and then act all confused why someone would take a "nasty tone." Those of us who keep nap time sacred are not rigid/ridiculous/"Nazis"--we simply place primacy on our children's *need* for sleep. It's really not a big deal. It's not forever. It takes some simple planning, and too bad if sometimes we don't make a playdate or go the extra-extra mile to accommodate Grandma's wishes.

And it's always the same people who say "wow, you're such a slave to your nap schedule" who then say, "you're so lucky to have an easy, well-behaved child." Gee, you think maybe a rested child is a well-behaved, easy child? Yeah, maybe![/quote]

PP here. You need to chill out. I said I used to be a nap Nazi when I had one child. My kids are well behaved so I don't know who you are talking to. Maybe you think that I am the same person as others posting. The world does not revolve around your precious snowflake's nap. Like I said, my kids are now 4 and 6 and no longer nap. I thought it would be impossible to travel to Europe because of the long flight and waking up at 2am our time. Guess what? Kids survived. Now I am making plans to fly to Asia.

I will forgive your bad attitude since you are in the middle of toddler drudgery. I didn't particular enjoy those days of being tired and picking up goldfish off the floor. Thankfully DH earns a 7 figure income and we could throw money at the household chores.

If I were OP, I would just not have gone if we had already seen the IL's the day before. I am quite reasonable. DH sticks up for me. DH also enjoys family time alone at our house.[/quote]

Can't wait until he and his 7-figure salary leave you for a younger, much prettier, much more pleasant model. BTW, he already cheats on you.[/quote]

You sound like a peach. I think it's your child's nap time.

Not sure why you think my DH is any more likely to cheat on me than yours. Yes, my DH is smart and successful. He is also the most stand up and loyal guy that I know. That is why I married him and why he is so successful. People still appreciate trustworthy people.[/quote]

You hire your housework done and I'm guessing that you get breaks from heavy duty childcare.  Realize that some people do not get that kind of help so throwing their schedule into complete chaos does not work so well for them.  [/quote]

PP again. I am not the one name calling here. I simply said things changed when we had two children. We would be chained to the house if I had to juggle the naps of the younger child. My boys no longer nap. You just learn to start to let things go and parenting and life get easier. I also used to be obsessed with anti-screen time and healthy food. We are just more lax about everything and everyone is happier.

Hey, my MIL drives me nuts. It isn't just about naps. Look how I am in our bedroom wasting time on DCUM on this ridiculous thread while MIL and DH are playing with the boys downstairs. [/quote]

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