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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How are we different from them? Why do we set different standards for our in-laws than we do with our parents and siblings? Why can't we just get along? Spread love this holiday season and love will come back to you tenfold.

From a DIL who is taking baby steps in doing the above ?[/quote]

To get back to the original post, I don't set different standards for ILs then myself or DH; ILs just insist on creating useless drama and failing to meet even the most basic standards of calm. It was one thing before I had kids: they provided plenty of popcorn opportunities. Now, letting them act out in front of my children is absolutely out of the question. If they can't behave, they can celebrate holidays without us. I won't let them set negative examples.

How hard can it be? Sit at a table, exchange polite conversation while enjoying a meal. Don't bring up past grievances or weird politics. Time with kids is not Festivus on Seinfeld. I don't care about how MIL (may she rest in peace) supposedly "favoritized" DH in the 1980s -- years before we met. Exchange gifts, share a few toasts, enjoy the holiday lights. Big deal.

But no! SIL and BIL have to act like spoiled brats into their 40s, and I have tweens to raise. I'm tired to telling my kids that we don't act like that in our house. We just share the holidays at home, in peace.[/quote]

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