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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'll just take OP at her word that she is from one of those very traditional families where this would be seen a a serious  offense. I haven't had to live it myself, but there are people in my family and from my culture who have had to deal with being ostracized for this very reason.

OP, if supporting someone feels like an obligation, yours is not the "support" they need. It is not your place to determine if your sister and her partner have enough in common for the relationship to last--that's their job. Your job, insofar as any of this is any of your business, is simply to listen to your sister when she wants to talk about her relationship (assuming she hasn't already gotten sick of your judgment and clammed up completely), and listen to your parents when they vent about your sister's choice.

Listen, not judge, comment, denigrate, pile on, bitch & moan, or any of the other behaviours that it sounds like you've probably been engaging in or gearing up for.

YOU and your parents can choose to make socializing a massively uncomfortable affair or you can take a stab at being gracious and allow your sister to be happy. Cultures mingle all of the time. Problems only arise when people are more focused on being divisive than on finding common ground.

And yeah, keeping your own equal opportunity dating history a secret from your parents does not make you less of a hypocrite.[/quote]

Oh please.

I am so sick of these hypocrisy accusations. There are worse things!!!

So, If I go jump off a cliff and then tell my sister to NOT do it, does that mean I'm being evil? If I smoke and tell my sister to NOT smoke, am I being mean?

MY personal actions should have no bearing on the validity of my argument. That is not the point of this.

In order to stay a family unit the members have to make an effort to care for and consider everyone else's feelings. It is NOT cool of my sister to off on her own and assimilate into her boyfriend's family and establish a relationship with them all the while saying a big FUCK YOU to her parents and family.

Consider her actions in any other context and they would be appalling. I really can't support or take her side on this. 
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