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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They did ask 'is there anything we can do' , even if sounded empty, why didnt you tell them what need.[/quote]

OP here (writing on a cell). I actually asked her parents to come and they sort of hemmed and hawed. I also told her brothers and told them they were welcome to come and any help managing all of this would be welcome. The brothers all deferred to their wives (who I don't talk to normally -- they talk to my wife usually -- and they both texted/emailed with reasons why the brothers couldn't come). None of the brothers or wives have called me to check in. I just call with update and encourage them to keep in touch. My wife's parents STILL haven't come. They had a vacation scheduled and then I don't know. They just keep saying they are trying to find time to come (they still work).

I have been really open about my wife's condition. I am not hiding the ball here or trying to get sympathy or be dramatic. My wife literally cannot talk cogently. She will be in therapy for months and on disability since she's a kindergarten teacher. It's awful and I've had loss in my life and I don't understand it.[/quote]

I am so sorry - this is awful and overwhelming situation.  Obviously these in-laws are completely worthless.  They are not going to be there for you - you've asked for help, you've informed them of the very dire needs of your family and they have not stepped up.  Ef em.  From here on out - they get nothing more from you.

I agree that your wife's colleagues, your colleagues, your neighbors, friends are your next best bet - make sure that they know what is going on with your wife.  If you belong to a church make sure that they also know what has happened to your wife. Is it possible to get some home health aid support for your wife?  Just having a reliable scheduled break is going to be so important for you.  You can not do this alone.

As others have said, your wife is extremely lucky to have such a wonderful husband by her side.  With your support she will get through this.  My heart so goes out to you, your wife and your children. God bless and hugs to all of you.[/quote]

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