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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is there a point to training them earlier than they want?  Does potty training at 4 have any negative effect on a child?[/quote]

Yes, four year olds notice that all the other children can use the bathroom and aren't wearing diapers under their clothes, hanging out of their bathing suits at the pool, etc. Do you think they are like infants and have no social awareness at 4?? Also, they will remember it because also unlike infants, 4 year olds are forming long term memories. Have you ever interacted with a child older than about 12 months?[/quote]

If they notice other kids, all the better. If the kid isn't trained simply because he's resistant (no other physical or neurological problems), then seeing their peers using the toilet can be a good motivator. [/quote]

This could apply to everything! Genius! Don't teach your kid to use silverware and hopefully he will feel like the odd one out and a little ape-like and start using it once he sees peers doing so! Shame! Who would have thought of this?! I am going to lay off all the teaching right now! Will save me a ton of effort. [/quote]

No one is saying that PT shouldn't have at least been attempted by the age of 4.  Yeah, the kid knows what a potty is and what it is used for but for whatever reason is not fully trained by the age of 4.  I'm still not sure why a parent would owe you or anyone else an explanation as to why it is taking so long.  Ironically, many times these issues stem from having attempted potty training too early - before the child was really ready/willing.  I know that must be a hard one for the "I Potty Trained my baby at 9 months!" crowd to believe.  But it happens.

If you potty trained your toddler - good for you!!  But a[b] kid isn't a freak[/b] if he/she is still PT in preschool. [/quote]

It's not your kid, it's you. Someone else could have trained him. No one thinks your kid can't do it...[/quote]

Gah!  So what?  It isn't a contest.  It isn't a race.  There is no competition, there is no trophy for getting your kid PT first.  YOU are doing that for YOU and your own sense of accomplishment.  If you want to spend a year of year life rushing a 2 year old to a little potty seat and changing crapped on underwear and britches - go for it.  If you want your kid to learn to go potty all by themselves - wait until they are ready.

Some might be ready for the whole process at 2.  MANY are not ready until they are 3/3.5.  Some might not be ready until they are 4.  Eventually - they do learn![/quote]

+1. Well said.[/quote]

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