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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, older parents; and those who maybe didn't set out specifically to be parents - are you happy with how it turned out? Do you regret it? [/quote]

I am a first time parent at 47.  DW is 35.  I started out (in a different marriage) in my 20s thinking I never, ever wanted kids, largely because my FOO was pretty awful and I saw no reason to repeat that misery and feared I wouldn't be able to help myself.

I changed my mind in my mid 30s, and it was part of the reason (among many, but the final straw) I left my first wife.  It obviously took a while to find the right partner (I learned a lot about myself and what I wanted in a partner), but I could not be happier.  We are in pretty good shape, "don't look our age" so keeping up with an infant hasn't been bad.  He's also a ridiculously easy baby.  I am somewhat worried about how ancient I'll feel when I'm at soccer games, etc., but other than that, it's completely worth it.

It does change your entire life - in a relentless, every minute of the day way - so go into it with your eyes open.  I'll be honest, if it weren't for the fact that when he smiles and "talks" to me, it completely melts my heart and makes me explode with joy, I would be in jail for throwing him out the window months ago.  It's intense like that...so be prepared and adjust your expectations.   Pay close attention to friends who are parents.  [/quote]

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