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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I was 35 my gynecologist told me, "Don't worry, you have plenty of time." Turns out she was wrong. I started trying at 37 and endured several losses, and now I'm facing total infertility at 40. If you're willing to go through fertility treatments and perhaps use donor eggs, by all means, wait. I just wish someone had told me to freeze my eggs when I was younger.

Then again, some 40-year-old women make babies easily. You never know. [/quote]

Not trying to be harsh but shouldn't you already know this? Don't most older women know that they may have trouble conceiving at an AMA?[/quote]

Not the PP, but if her gynocologist was telling her she had plenty of time at 35, then it wasn't unreasonable for her to think she had time.

I think a lot of women think they have until 40.  And at 35, that may seem like a lot of time, but they don't realize that even if they start trying at 35, it could take a year to get pregnant, then that could end in miscarriage.  It could take a few months to get your cycles back to normal.   Next thing you know, you're 38.

I don't think people realize it could take a few years to have a successful pregnancy (at any age).   I think most people assume they'll get pregnant fast once they start trying.  They don't factor in the possibility of hiccups.

I started trying at 36.  I thought that would be fine.  Three miscarriages later, I'm 39, and the picture looks entirely different.   In my 20s, I was so conditioned to use birth control because you could so easily get pregnant.  I think it never really occurred to me that getting pregnant and having a successful pregnancy is a process.

That said, I don't regret waiting.  I didn't start dating my husband until I was a month shy of 31.  I don't regret waiting even after that.  I think our marriage would be very different if we had rushed to have children.  I am glad we took the time to build a solid marriage (to work out all of the kinks of living together, sharing a life together).  I'm not saying that everyone needs that.  But we did.

It's just a shame that time might run out.[/quote]

I hope you have good luck (have you tried an ovulation kit)? [/quote]

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