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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
Wow! So many of you have drunk the 'competitive' Kool-aid. My job is to help my kids find their passion and ensure they're educated - and education isn't just found in school. I have no doubt my kids will be successful at whatever they decide to pursue. They may not be the best but they'll be happy.

I am the above "poverty poster." It has nothing to with "drinking the koolaid" and everything to do with facing reality. I don't care where my kids go to college or what career path they choose. [b]I do care that they do not squander their high school years and close off their options before they are mature enough to even realize that they have options[/b]. They have plenty of time for extracurriculars of their choice and plenty of down time, but screwing around and [b]closing doors by not doing their best academically[/b] (and that is different for each of my kids based upon their abilities) is not an option. Neither DH nor I had a safety net. Had we not be motivated to do our best as kids, we should still be ultra poor like our families. My kids can chose that life after they leave our home, but [b]we are not choosing it for them by allowing them to close doors before they have ever had a chance to be opened[/b]. If you think it is easy to make a life correction then you are the one drinking the koolaid.[/quote]

You've not only drunk the Kool-aid but also have poverty anxiety.  You think things kids do or don't do in high school will limit their opportunities forever.  I get your fear but your perception is warped and unhealthy.[/quote] Not warped and not-unhealthy. Good study habits, good work ethic and responsible behavior does indeed lead to success. Can someone overcome a bad start? Of course. Is or easy to overcome a crappy high school record leading to crappy college or no college admission. Of course not--particularly since it generally reflects poor study habits, poor work ethic and irresponsible behavior.  People can change but generally don't fundamentally change. I have no poverty anxiety. I have lived it. I have escaped it. I could live it again if necessary. Do I want my children to potentially lock themselves into a particular economic class before their lives even start? Of course not. You make a lot of accusations and assumptions about someone who does not share your narrow world view.  As the saying goes...walk a mile in my shoes--or in the case of my childhood--holey  shoes. As I previously stated, the only reason DH and I escaped the poverty of our prior generations is because we prioritized education and worked our asses off. Perhaps, we should just give our kids a big trust old fund and not worry about them achieving their own success (as they eventually define the word) in life. I prefer to think they are better off using their own gifts and talents and become their own people and that starts either education.[/quote]

I grew up in modest means (parents were farmers) and sorry, but you sound nuts.

So of the most successful people in the world took very unusual paths to their success.  [/quote]

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