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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Okay, then I say by all means let your LO know. "Hey, this is awkward, but when my friend Bob saw your girlfriend Marley, he immediately recognized her as an escort he hired a few years ago."[/quote]

[quote]I would also add that if you don't have the guts to say it to him personally, then that means you shouldn't tell him.[/quote]

+1 to this.  My real problem with the OP is that s/he clearly has an agenda wrt the SO.  S/he doesn't "just" want her LO to know; she wants her LO to break up with his SO.  And that makes OP a bad messenger for this information.  If you can truly just tell your LO what you know, and only what you know 100 percent for sure, and with no editorializing, then do it.  But if you can't do those things, then don't.  [/quote]

Any messenger better than no messenger for this type of information.

Simply put, LO has a right to know and make his own decisions.  [/quote]

True...and he also has the right to say "Alleged LO, I was happy with Bambi and now you have made it a point to ruin that for me.  Thanks for telling me and I have decided to break up with her.  However, you will be a constant reminder of this incident and I do not really appreciate you medlling in my life behind my back, thus, I do not want to have anything to do with you."

Because the way I am wired, I would ask a lot of questions of OP if she came to me with this.  And if it came out that she made a research project out of this, I would likely conclude that she was a meddlesome so and so who wanted to sabotage my relationship and my happiness.  Now if it is ongoing, completely different.

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