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[quote=Anonymous]Op, if you are real, listen.  Please listen.

A mom carries her baby for most of his first year.  Then she lets him walk a little, fall down, toddle, get up, fall down, get stronger, walk more.  By 2 he walks on his own and she just picks him up occasionally when he wants comfort or gets tired.  Then as he gets older, she may pick him up and carry him when he gets really, really tired..like when he's 5 and gets tired after a day at the amusement park.  But she doesn't carry him all day every day for the rest of his life.

But imagine another mom who can't stand to see her son hurt by toddling and falling.  So she carries him in a sling through his first year, his second year.  She switches him to a backpack his third year.  And now walking is really hard, plus kind of embarrassing because he never really learned.  And now his muscles have atrophied and he knows he's bad at walking and he really hates to try because it's hard and he falls down and he wants to just be taken everywhere.  He's starting elementary school and the mom can't stay with him and carry him everywhere.  What should she do now?  Homeschool him?  Get him a wheelchair?

That's an analogy for where you are now.  You have crippled your son by carrying him all these years.  And how he expects you to carry him forever.  He had the capability to support himself, but you have seriously stunted his growth.  And he doesn't want to learn now.

You have two choices.  Support him forever, set up a trust for him for after your death that can support him and his wife through his 40's, 50's, 60's, 70's, and 80's, or....stop carrying him.  Stop hurting him.

He still has the capability if you will stop stunting his growth.  And it's not like you're leaving him destitute -- you have bought him a condo and he has 40 GRAND A YEAR of spending money from his grandfather.  I could easily support myself on $40K if I didn't have housing costs!  (wtf?!?)
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