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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's a horrible thing that happened.  That being said, she made the choice, no one forced her.  If she wanted a year off, take the year off and all of the sacrifices and consequences that come with it. She chose not to, you can't blame "the system" because you are not willing to do whatever it takes.  Yes, she kept her job for the insurance, but only because the other parent did freelance work.  One of the solutions would be have that parent get a job with insurance, etc.[/quote]

Victim blaming much? How many women do you really think can take a whole year off work (which, BTW, most women would be fired for -- you only get 12 weeks protected leave WITHOUT PAY with FMLA -- so it would effectively be leaving their job permanently)?

You sound like you're trying to blame the mom so you don't have to face the possibility this could happen to any mom, even one who really, REALLY loved her baby and made a ton of sacrifices.

You can't claim she made a choice when it's not a choice for most people. It's a necessity for most Americans to have two working parents. Get off your privileged high horse and GTFO.[/.

It is a choice.  Having a child is a choice.  If you want a year off when you have a child, it's your responsibility (not the government's) to make that work.  If you want to stay home, but can't afford to, then don't have a baby.  Don't expect the government to fund your dream for you.  [/quote]

Right.  But this results in fewer educated and successful women having children.  the ultra wealthy and those living off the government carry on as normal.

You also are speaking about having a child as though it's the same as buying a new car.  Having a child is very similar to growing old.  It's a part of life.  If you don't support maternity leave it makes no sense to support retirement.  After all, others are paying for your retirement (401k match isn't a result of employee performance, social security, Medicare, etc).  [/quote]

it is in no way accurate to compare breeding to aging. Many people are now opting out. 40% of the population won't have kids for different reasons. They shouldn't have to pay for your poor choices and lack of planning.[/quote]

If there isn't any breeding you won't be retiring!  And the policies you support are only encouraging women who can't take care of children to "breed" as you disrespectfully call it.

My husband and I have planned well for having a child.  I'm a case in point as to how our policies and lack of maternity leave are hurting our country and economy.  I probably would have had a child a few years ago but I have been saving up for maternity leave.  I also didn't want to have a child until i felt comfortable living on one salary.  So instead of having three children, we will probably end up with two.  Which is fine, but we are high earners and both highly educated.  In other words, we statistically will most likely raise children who become productive members of society and pay into the tax base so you can retire.

I also find it interesting that you equate poor planning to having a child.  I guess your own mother didn't have any career ambitions or didn't have any desire to have the ability to support herself?  Don't you have any empathy - at least towards your own mother or yourself since you were a baby once?  [/quote]

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