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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would and have reached out to dads for a playdate.  They were not stay-at-home dads, I just knew that they tended to be the parent to take the kid to the park on weekends.

BUT - and it is a big but - this would be for a playdate in the park, in the open, or an activity.  I would not invite them to the house where the dad and I would be the only adults.  If there were two women or someone else, fine.  [b]But not the two of us in the house. I'm uncomfortable with that.[/b] [/quote]

So you are worried about being alone in a house with the dad -- presumably, someone you know from school/neighborhood, not some random stranger -- when both of your children are playing in the next room? If you truly don't trust this person such that you would not be in a house alone with them, why would you let your child play with his in the first place, even if it is at a park?  You sound really paranoid to me.  I am pretty safety-conscious person, and I would not have a problem going to a play date at the house of a SAHD.  If the guy gave me the creeps for other reasons (inappropriate comments or something) then no.  But I wouldn't be uncomfortable just because - gasp! - he's male.  I don't appreciate it when people treat me a certain way based strictly on my gender, and I try not to do the same to others.

I really don't understand some of you people.  DCUM boards are filled with woman complaining about how they want their DHs to be more involved in raising children, doing housework, cooking, etc., and about how women want to be treated as equals to men at home and at work.  And how many boards have we all read about how SAHMs want to be valued and respected for contributing to their families?  Yet when some men actually step up and become the primary caregiver, we get a bunch of women saying it makes them "uncomfortable" to go to a home playdate with a SAHD.  One PP even called it "creepy."  Yet another PP discounted a SAHD she knew because he "chose" to stay at home making "trinkets" while his wife worked her tail off (incidentally, since when is it anyone's business why one parent stays home??). Sounds to me like a lot of you like the idea of a father "being involved", but only to a point.  [/quote]

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