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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your agreement going in was no fertility treatment, and that's what I'd stick with. If you had no children or a strong desire for another my answer might be different. If you ended up with a special needs child would you still be glad you spent all that money for something you didn't really really want in the first place? [/quote]

We did agree and he's trying to be fair and honor that but I know this is really bothering him and he'd like to try at least once. I know it makes it worse that the problem comes from "his side" of the equation. I think he feels that it's kind of like rubbing salt in the wound. I wish we could table this for a year or two and reassess then but time is not really on our side here. We've only been married 6 months. I really don't know what to do. [b]My gut says not to do it but I don't want to ruin my marriage over this, you know? And I don't want to deny him something he wants so badly. [/b]I feel guilty, like he should have looked for a twenty something girl to have babies with instead of a divorced woman with three children already, kwim? I think he really thought we'd be able to have one baby together and that he'd be satisfied with that.[/quote]

It sounds like this is a deal-breaker. Do you want to keep this marriage or not?  Do you care more about the marriage than you care about the pain and hassle of going through IVF?  You have to choose. Try IVF and have the baby or cut him loose. [/quote]

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