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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have no sympathy for people who don't plan for retirement.  That being said, I love my parents and would let them live with me if they needed to. However, both should have enough to live on between social security, military pensions, and savings.  [b]I would not let someone I didn't like live with me though.  Living with someone unpleasant is painful and I am not making myself miserable because of someone else's poor planning.[/b]  [/quote]

+1  DH's parents were both hard workers but mismanaged their business and had very little money when they retired.  However, MIL had been abusive to DH as a child and while the relationship had been repaired somewhat, it wasn't ever warm.  We agreed with each other when we married that we would never have a parent live with us.  No way he could deal with his parent in our house and was horrified when MIL hinted that she'd move in someday.  Fortunately for everyone, MIL and FIL both passed away after short illnesses so we were spared long nursing home or rehab stays and they did not outlive their minimal assets.  Still, before FIL died we put a hold on some major home expenses since we had no idea what we'd be in for with his care.

Regardless of DH's relationship with them we did feel a financial obligation.  There's a difference between letting your able bodied parent live in (to them) reduced circumstances (totally acceptable IMO) vs. being left at the mercy of a crappy nursing home or sent home with limited mobility or mental capacity and no help.  That's just not OK.[/quote]

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