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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. 
I understand that some people either can not relate or would never accept this behavior. 
I CAN tell you with COMPLETE confidence that I do not in any way interrogate my husband. His lies come out really only when discovered. Like when we needed the car and it wasn't at the train station. Don't you think its strange that DH only admitted he wasn't taking the train when he was "caught?" When I say that  I really don't care whether he drives in or not. But the fact that he leaves at the exact same time and arrives home at the exact same time as if he took the train? The only reason that came out was I asked why he was coming home at the exact same times. He looked at me like he swallowed his tongue. Now that's odd, do't you think? And then he says it's none of my business? He does it all the time? 
That's some questionable behavior.[/quote]
NP here.  I had a boyfriend who was a liar.  I read this little book, "The Art of Cross Examination."  So, in this situation, you would not say, "I went by to get the car and it wasn't there," because then he'd say, "Oh, I drove today,"

You'd say, "I heard the train was delayed."
Him:  "Yes, it was,"
you:  "Did it make you late?
Him--either "no, I took the car," or, "yes/no"
(assuming he said yes)
How late did it make you?  Did you have to explain to (boss)…

…and you see if he starts to spin it out.  Then when he's done a whole story that's a lie, you say,(very calmly)

"I know you took your car in today."
No I didn't…What makes you say that?
(don't give him any info) "You took your car in today"

etc.  He will try to disprove you, minimize it, and ask you stuff in the hopes that you reveal how you know what you know (and that reveals HOW MUCH/LITTLE you know, so it gives him power to re-spin.  don't give him any info)

Now you better be ready to hear it.  I found out my boyfriend was a cheat.  [/quote]

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