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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that you have to consider how you would like to be treated and treat your children that way.

So many times people act like tweens and teens are from a different planet.  If it were you being dropped off so early would you like it?  When you are in the nursing home, will you mind waiting in the foyer to be picked up (in your wheelchair) for over 2 hours to suit someone else?

[b]What exactly is it that you husband is trying to teach your son? [/b] That he better get used to getting the short stick in the family?  I just don't get these other parent's comments.  [/quote].

THANK YOU!!!!
That's how I view it, I would hate to wait around like that.[/quote]

He's trying to teach his son that the world doesn't revolve around him.

We as parents are not really doing them a favor by being "considerate" all the time. I put "considerate" in quotes because there is a line between being "considerate" and spoiling your kids, or treating them like they are fragile and can't have any hardships in their lives.  We are constantly removing any tiny hardships that comes across their paths.  It's making these kids not able to handle any inconvenience, small or large.

I tell my kids I won't drive them to school even though it's really close by, that they can take the school bus, even though that takes longer because 1. why add to the congestion around here   2.  why use gas when I don't need to  3. every time we get in the car we add to the air pollution

In the grand scheme of things, this isn't a huge issue, and that's probably why OP's husband doesn't care one way or the other.  But, I think we are catering to our kids too much sometimes.  [/quote]

Actually, this is a new method of parenting that's used in conjunction with helicopter parenting and even more damaging. It's called Snowplow parenting. You plow the road in front of your kids so they never encounter any obstacles or challenges -- you just smooth everything out and make their lives as easy as possible.

Then you wonder why they fail as adults and crumple at the first sign of resistance. Because they never learned how to deal with any hardship, even one as small as being mildly inconvenienced for a year by having to go to school early and play computer games there instead of at home. Gasp, I don't know how any mother would ever subject their child to such cruelty!  :roll: [/quote]

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