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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I continually wonder how you people would respond if you were paralyzed or something but your low libido spouse stood by you and loved and cared for you even though sex was no longer part of the equation. Or how you would handle it if it was reversed and they physically were just unable to provide that to you. Would you walk away because they couldn't put out enough?[/quote]

That different than choosing to deprive your spouse of affection. [/quote]

And once again what you all see as choosing to deprive you of affection is usually a deeper more complicated situation. Affection isn't always something a person can turn on and off like a faucet. When a relationship is healthy in all of its aspects, the affection comes naturally, when some part of the relationship is sick, the affection might suffer as a result.

I'm not saying there aren't situations where a spouse simply cruelly and randomly decides they are no longer interested in their spouse. Just simply that it seems more likely that there are a lot more relationships that could use some work then manipulative sociopathic spouses that suddenly decide that they want to hurt their SO. Its easier of course to write them off as the latter but it just seems more realistic that at least some of you are more in the former category. [/quote]

i understand that, and that may be what happens some of the time. It is probably a first sign that there is a problem, unless you have a petty spouse who uses sex as a control tactic. Some people cheat when they're having relationship troubles. Some people yell and throw things when they feel like the relationship is slipping. None of those are reasonable ways to treat your spouse because you're angry. [/quote]

I don't know about you but I would have no interest in having sex with my DH if he was angry with me or if he was unhappy in the relationship. Sex with someone who is just going through the motions is not enjoyable (to me at least). And equating being uninterested in sex (which in the scenarios I'm describing at least is a physiological thing not a malicious thing) with throwing things or cheating is, IMO, insane. Those are things a person can control! Now the sociopathic spouse that is holding back because her DH didn't buy her Tiffany's ring? Sure, I guess that could be the same category. [/quote]

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