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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP said "He doesn't have much in common with the kids immediately around him in his dorm (I met them at drop off and knew right away it would be a poor fit)," which tells me she makes major decisions on very little information.

How can you possibly know that no one is his dorm can be his fried? The people my mother was sure were my type were not. At all. The person she said "seems kind of weird" became my roommate my first year out of college, and we're still in touch, decades later.[/quote]

I get what you are saying but I know when my kids are entering a situation in which the fit is poor. You mother may not have guessed correctly but in OP's case there does seem to be a poor fit. It doesn't mean her DS can't find friends and his niche, but it may be that he should switch schools. My DD was in a residential summer program and I knew the day we dropped her off that the other kids were not her type. She formed no real bonds that summer.

OP isn't making any decisions, she's reacting off of her DS. Given the anxiety all parents have when their kids go to college for the first time, I get it.[/quote

To be fair, it is also possible op is projecting some of her own anxiety about her kid adjusting to college on her kid.  I was also a bit confused by that statement about the other kids in the dorm.   There are many kids that live in a dorm, she was unlikely to see more than half a dozen. And jumping to the conclusion that her kid is at the wrong school after two weeks is ridiculous.  [/quote]

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