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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]O.P. - on the one hand, we have the legal system.  And, on the other hand, we have the often unfair, and painful, realities of unraveling a marriage.  I'm posting here, not as a long-time (but now former) divorce lawyer but, rather as a divorcée.  Sure, I know what the law says.  And, I've also seen the ugly machinations of "the system." Ultimately, many of my own decisions were based on a cost-benefit analysis.  Did I want us both impoverished from paying the lawyers to fight a war of attrition?  Or, did I prefer to hold my nose as we signed-off on a deal which left us both a little "unhappy."  Life isn't fair, and the divorce process is just one more element of unfairness.  One upside for you is that you won't have a lifetime connection based on children.  [/quote]

OP here. Thanks! Given your experience would you say this to be true, or untrue:
I was given advice to personally (sans Lawyer) file for a modification to support based on a change of circumstance (hers).
[b]I was told that she would basically be forced to prove she still required support and wasn't co-habitating.[/b] [/quote]

The way my situation played out, the judge looked only at my apparent "need" for DXH to follow through on what was in our divorce agreement, not his ability to pay what had been decided. He was supposed to carry the children on his health insurance. I paid for COBRA coverage because he failed to keep up his responsibilities. Man, I had my ass handed to me in Court. He lied, with zero documentation to back up his lies, and got away with it. So, even as he slinks lower and lower, I am reluctant to take it to court based on this experience.

It's easy enough to file for a modification without a lawyer. But, if DXW is filing taxes on her own and not legally married, prepare yourself for disappointment.
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OP here. Thanks. Yes in speaking with others it has become obvious that the person that is willing to be the bigger asshole usually "wins" in the court proceedings. [/quote]

This is very very very very true.  We have been through some unique experiences in court and basically the other people lied and were the biggest a-holes and we were not willing to go to their level and obviously lost.[/quote]

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