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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Poor OP. Some people are telling her to tell him to stop and others are telling her she is enjoying it and encouraging it if she tells him to stop.

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Because she's already told him to stop....twice...a third time isn't going to accomplish anything that the first two did not.[/quote]

Has she told him specifically to stop yet? In his mind "I'm married" may not mean "stop being a fucking creeper"[/quote]

I think she used the phrase " I'm married, and I'm not interested"  which I  think was a big mistake.   She should have been straight up from the beginning because you could possibly infer from her answer that if circumstances were to change se would be interested.   Regardless what the OP needs to do now is respond with a simple " do not contact me again " and ignore him.   [b]Idk why she is trying to formulate an elaborate response.   Putting a lot of thought into something you have no interest in.[/b]  /shrug[/quote]

Why make such an inference? Isn't it fairly apparent she is worried this is going to escalate if she outright rejects him because of their past history? I think she is very interested in handling this right, with the situation that is right in front of her. Saying what she should have done is zero help and only serves to victim blame.

I think it is wrong to even entertain that she did anything wrong or that inferred anything to him or instigated anything. This guy is right on the borderline of physically stalking her. She didn't invite this, she didn't want this and from her posts it certainly doesn't seem like she is enjoying this. [/quote]

Oh please, I clearly said what she SHOULD do, now, after the fact.  You do not engage with people like that, period. Which is why you keep it short and to the point. It's not a college application essay, it's a "stay the hell away from me.done"

I think it's fine to be honest and point out that something she said/did MAY have lead him to keep pushing the issue.  I never said she did it intentionally, so don't get so hot and bothered.[/quote]

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