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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All these women are missing the point. Many men -- I won't say all -- but many of us aren't bothered *as quickly* as you are by the dishes piling up, laundry not being done, or much more menial things like some dust on the floor or a lightbulb that goes out. In my experience women stress more about these things and cannot relax and be "fun sexy girl" that we fell in love with until every painting in the house is hung correctly etc. etc. Men can't stand that. It isn't what you sell us in the beginning of the relationship, but as soon as we move in together we're expected to be Bob Villa to your Martha Stewart. [/quote]

Sounds as if you need to become a homosexual since what men want is all you can think about.  How do you like penis?[/quote]

This is just a non sequitur and not a substantive response. No one has refuted my point that women frequently want marriage points for doing things that their spouse could take or leave. That makes no sense. I don't expect my spouse to give me points for working on my golf game. Likewise, I shouldn't have to give her points for finding tasteful accent pillows. My life would not change one iota with cranberry versus sage accent pillows.[/quote]

You are making a blanket statement about men that is not universal. If you are living alone and 'making the bed when someone comes over' you also aren't managing a household with multiple people in it.

I make dinner for my husband a lot, great dinners! If I wasn't there would he survive and be ok with...frozen pizzas cereal and beer? Yes, he'd be fine. He likes those things. Dudes like those things. But he appreciates my cooking good dinners for him, he gives me 'marriage points' for that because its a way I express love and affection for him and his life is improved by it. Even if the improvement is something he could live without. Cleaning, laundry, caring for children, grocery shopping, errand running, diaper changing, being a good parent, those all fall into the same category. Maybe its not a 'must have' for a slovenly husband but it does make life easier and better for him. And doing it is a way of showing love and affection (which is where all 'real' marriage points should come from. What do I get when you play golf? I have literally zero discernable benefit from playing golf. Not even emotionally. Its why I would claim no marriage points for going out with my girlfriends for dinner. Talking about accent pillows is a great way to demean someone's interests because obviously its not about whether YOU care about cranberry versus sage, its an entire mindset of making your household presentable which presents your family in a positive way to the outside world. If a woman is completely obsessed with accent pillows and wants credit from you for that then sure, thats crazy, but thats so cartoonish a picture of a DW that its hard to take seriously (although frankly so is your cartoonish depiction of yourself as a DH). [/quote]

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