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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would hope that even if said spouse/parent is working crazy-ass hours, that he/she at the VERY least:

1) Spends time in a loving, supportive way with children every day that he/she is home

2) Does *something* practical (not just fun and squishy) to contribute to the operation of the household, so that the kids see that not all drudgery is the responsibility of the other parent

3) Treats the other parent with respect and support, so that children see everyone's contributions to the family are valued, and that by virtue of being a human being you are valued

4) Now and again, tell the child what it is you do, even take child to work so that his/her life out of the home isn't a mystery, rather an extension

5) Spends extended, quality time with the family for family vacations -- key to bonding and making memories that last[/quote]

I think OP's issue had to do with #2.  In my opinion, lack of #3 is the deal breaker - and at the very least puts a strain on the marriage. Even if both parents WOH, #3 is fundamental. [/quote]

I hear ya.  The #2 practical thing can be very simple.

For example, if the other parent has a rule that the children need to put their clothes in the hamper and tidy toys before bedtime, the crazyworking spouse who is [b]putting one of the kids away [/b]needs to monitor and enforce that.  This, to me, is a sign of respect for each person's individual and collective contribution to the household.

Another example is if the other parent has folded the sofa throws and obviously tidied the living room, the crazyworking parent returns the room more or less to that order after snuggling on the sofa or using a glass and plate for a midnight snack.

That sort of thing. It adds an element of domestic respect to the notion of "quality family time."  [/quote]

And by "putting one of the kids away," I mean, of course "putting one of the kids to bed."  :D  Haha![/quote]

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