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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really disagree with a lot of what has been
posted here. If I send a child or teen to a sleepover with a phone it is for his/her use, and I want them to habe access to it without needing to ask or turn it on. I would be really put off if someone took something that belongs to my child. [/quote]

This.
My 10 year old dd was at a sleepover at a good friends house for the first time, and texted me at 1am that she didn't feel comfortable there and wanted out of that house immediately. Luckily the issue wasn't as horrifying as it sounded, but when you get a text like that from your daughter, you're grateful that she has access to communicate with you without going through the parents. [/quote]

I'm curious-- what was the issue?[/quote]

A very high-maintenance, dramatic child ruined a birthday party my daughter was attending by getting up several times in the night to text, then call her parents and loudly complain about things that were total, unmitigated, bullshit plays for attention.  The birthday girl was bummed, the hosts were annoyed, and the kids were exhausted.  Before you say "don't invite a kid like that to your party," she was a friend of the birthday girl and although we all know she is quite high-drama, no one anticipated this.

If you really want your child to be able to reach you in an emergency, then leave your child with parents whom you trust to handle an emergency.

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So let's say a parent/brother/uncle/etc did something inappropriate. You really think the kid is going to feel comfortable enough to ask to use the landline to call home...likely while a parent stands by and listens to the conversation? [/quote]

So amazed by all of the molestation paranoia on this board (there's another thread on this).  Here's the reality:  it's far more likely to happen in your own home, with a relative who knows your child well, whom your child trusts, and who can guilt trip your child into believing she has to be "close" with the person.   The "look at the statistics" crowd isn't looking at the statistics, which point to relatives as the most likely perpetrators.

If it did happen at another home, the person would most likely scare a child out of calling.

If you know the family well, that helps.  If you find them creepy, that could be a problem.

Some of us refuse to live our lives based on fear of the worst-case scenario.

I personally permit them for sleepovers at my home though my child hasn't gotten one yet (she's about to for middle school).  I tell the girls the phones have to be off at lights out.  I don't confiscate them.  The girls who sleep over are very independent-minded, enjoy our home, and trust me.

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