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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]While I don't understand where your DH is on this, would the issue be moot if IVF worked? Is he willing to try again?

I know several couples who went to Cornell inNYC as a last ditch after multiple failed attempts and were successful[/quote]

If IVF or nature worked, DH would be happy with kids. His issue is adoption or donor sperm because he has a need to have children that are biologically his. This drives me crazy. He's [b]not even particularly handsome or tall or anything[/b]. If anything, his family is predisposed to obesity, heart disease, diabetes and cancer at young ages so you'd think he'd like to mix up the gene pool. His vanity and ego are telling him to reject non-bio children.[/quote]

OP, I am one of the people telling you to get donor sperm, and even I find this statement to be a bit harsh. The heart disease thing could be an issue, but really, you aren't perfect. I am concerned that you show an interest in donor sperm partly because he is not great looking. Of you go the route of donor sperm, at least try to get a donor that looks like him. Same ethnicity and so on. 
I understand that his ego is troubling, he sounds selfish. I have seen these guys, they aren't the fittest, and seem to shy away from their equal in women (short, unhealthy, obese). I don't know what to say.
Are your eggs good? If so, maybe freeze eggs and embryos from donor sperm (not as easy and 100% as you think), but still consider donor for immediate conception. Sounds like he would divorce you if you got pregnant, but you never know. [/quote]

I disagree.  I think it's the frustration that he won't look into other options.  I mean, very few are married to an Olympic athlete or Nobel Prize winner or the like.  At some point you have to say, this isn't working, these are our options for having a child, which may preclude having a bio link, and I say this as someone who did use donor sperm. [/quote]

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