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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I'm reading all the replies, and I have a couple of responses.

[b]First, I don't see this as a "dead-end" relationship because I don't want to be married.  I am astounded by the number of people who don't understand this.[/b] I can't possibly be the only middle-aged woman who has never wanted to be married.

Second, why did I post this?  My girlfriends have been telling me that I am wrong because, according to them, I've broken some "code of the sisterhood".  I wanted to see if people on here agreed.  I just don't think I have any responsibility to "the sisterhood" any more than I do for his marriage vows.  If I saw a woman hanging from a cliff, I would try to save her. Not because she is a woman, but because she is human.

Third, they have 3 adult children, no grandkids.

You all may be right that I'm a rotten person, karma will get me, someday I'll be lonely, etc., but for now I'm extremely content.

It seems as if I'm hearing from women and I'd be interested to hear from some guys and get their point of view also.[/quote]

OK. Man here.

I'm astounded at your lack of understanding here. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to be married. But there IS something wrong with using [b]someone else's spouse[/b] as your fuck buddy.

Don't want to marry? Don't. But find another suitable unattached partner to share yourself with and quit rationalizing your behavior.

Also, as one man's perspective...if I was a single man and we met and I discovered that you'd had a three year relationship with a married man I'd run like hell. I'd want no part of someone like you. Nor would most honorable people. But there are plenty of serial cheaters out there so I'm certain you'll not have any issues finding company.

Well, until your looks fade after which time you'll no longer be desired for the services that you provide.[/quote]

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