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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not sure why we are all so caught up in this thing called slut shaming. Let's talk about common sense for a minute. 
During the sixties, many feminists thought that women should strive for equality wrt sex. That belief stems from rhe assumption that men and women all want the same thing, and unfortunately, I am not convinced that that is true. Even more, I'm not sure that women can realistically even get the same thing.
Men enjoy sex more than women. Men achieve orgasm much faster and more frequently than women. Women are more likely to have an orgasm with a partner if she feels secure and safe. Women are more likely to have an orgasm with a man if he loves her. So when two strangers are having sex, it is more likely that the man will achieve orgasm than the woman. The equation changes when we are looking at committed relationships. The woman's chances of orgasm go up! Bravo. 
So when we look at cases where women are sleeping with many different men, she has a tremendous risk of disease, see CDC data posted earlier. If she takes that risk, it better be worth it. The problem is, I'm not sure it is worth it most of the time. Often, she is not having an orgasm, if you want to use that as a marker. She is getting attention that she might crave, maybe. She might get some sort of psychological entertainment. But it is unlikely that she is getting the same thing (equality) that the man is getting. He shares in the disease culture plate risk, but he gets to have this fantastic orgasm and his fertility is not impaired by STDs.
What the feminist forgot is that we are biologically different. Maybe what we should have been seeking is fairness. 
The risks go far beyond the disease issue. Risks of violence and pregnancy are also included. I have seen one woman die from abortion related complications (right here in Montgomery county at a safe place), and two rendered infertile. I have yet to see any of my friends who had the babies get their fare share of child support. That is another chapter. Then there is the contraception issue. We pour potentially harmful chemicals into our bodies because [b]we don't have the guts to tell a man to use a condom[/b] (I know they can fail but there are many other benefits). Then there are the tubal libations. This is a risky procedure, the doctor is going into you abdomen ladies. A vasectomy is a superficial procedure! If he refuses, it might mean that he is willing to ask you to take a bigger risk on your life, and might have plans for another family down the road (another thread). 
Ladies, stop the madness, let's get real. Men are still getting what they want. Nothing has changed.[/quote]

You just said it: no guts!

I disagree.  I think women are conditioned to not pursue sex.  Social and cultural conditioning.  A woman who is educated to do so and feels confident to do so, will DEMAND a condom and nothing less.

It starts in the family, in the school in the social circles and it continues in the media.  Women are conditioned to be subservient to men, do be dominated even to this day.  Yes, they have made leaps in sexual liberation but there is so much more to make.

Let me tell you something, I found a guy who fits me sexually at the age 40.  Yes, it is not one size fits all.  To find a sexual partner, you need to have sex with a lot of men.  Chemistry and sexual compatibility is something that you cannot earn, learn, or buy.  You need to live and learn.

And stop giving me that bs about women not enjoying sex.  The only reason they are not is because of lame plain vanilla partners and the stigma that sexual curiosity carries for women.  Promiscuous is an ugly word.  Yes, multiple partners may be sign of emotional instability or other psychological issues.

But they are plenty of confident sexually aware women, who are comfortable with their sexuality and know that true sexual blossoming does not start for women until they are 40.

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