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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not from this area either OP. My husband is though and most of my girlfriends are the wife's of his friends. I have also become friendly with a few neighbors and some of the moms from my sons preschool. I work full time and manage to go out with girlfriends about once, maybe twice a month. My husband and I do host friends and their kids often at our home.

Have you thought of joining a charity organization/junior league type group, college alumni group, sorority alumni group or a moms group at your church/religious organizaiton. These would be the people that you already have something in common with so you could likely make friends. [/quote]

OP here.  Neither myself nor DH is from here, so unfortunately he doesn't have a network of friends here for me to be friends with.  He has difficulty making friends too and has not made any friends since we moved here.  What do you think your situation would be like if your husband was also new to the area and neither of you knew anyone when you moved here (which is our situation).  Also having no local family means we had zero social connections when we moved here, which is really tough.

Joining other types of groups is an option I haven't really explored, though pre-baby I did volunteer a lot and never made any friends through all my volunteer efforts.  We are not members of a church right now.  But I think a group like the kind you mention would be helpful.  I just have to figure out what kind to join.[/quote]

It sounds like between you and your husband, you are the social one. I think in that case you are going to need to be the social organizer.. arrange the lunches/dinners out etc. Maybe set it up on the same night of the week once a month with plenty of time for other to arrange childcare etc. Tell your friends to invite a friend also. Maybe you will become friends with one of your existing friends, friends. If others can't necessarily go out (because of childcare etc) set it up at your house, let all the kids play, mommies relax etc.

Do you and your husband host parties for the friends you do have? Cookouts, wine tastings, holiday parties etc. If you want to be social sometimes it involves including the husbands and kids.

Also, I think most women only have 3 or 4 friends that they actually spend time with on a regular basis. Gone are the days of 20 girlfriends that all get together at the drop of a hat. 
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