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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I read it.  I found it to be pretty one-sided.  I think changing the waiting period for adoption revocation is a terrible idea, and ignores the needs of the child.  A baby needs to immediately bond with its parent- whether that is the birth parent or an adoptive parent- not be ping-ponged back and forth.
The article did not make any attempt to get alternate perspectives- it only looked at those who regretted adoption.[/quote]
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The fetus has already bonded in utero and studies have shown the baby suffers when birth mother and baby are separated[/b].  Women who have babies born out of wedlock are no longer ostracized and society should do all it can to keep these women and their babies together.  It is not the job of any woman to be a brood mare for infertile couples.  Adopting children from other countries is a travesty because these babies will never know or understand their hereditary culture, extended families or their mother tongue.[/quote]
I somehow can't agree that being adopted by a nice U.S. family is worse than existing in a sub-standard third-world orphanage till about 18 and then fending for yourself the best way you can. No culture or tongue is worth it. Neither is extended family if they allowed the child to be raised by a public institution rather than accepting him into their family.[/quote]

I was a high school volunteer at Georgetown in the ER and was pulled in to chaperone during a gyn exam with a male physician. The mother was blunt and straight up about us contacting an adoptive service and wanted out as soon as the baby was born (later that day). There was no evidence of any mystical bonding between that mother and her child. None. That baby would have been better off if I had taken her home with me at age 15, assuming it survived the withdrawal from heroin and crack the mother admitted to during the exam. Come on!
 
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