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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's weird that she's posting to the general public on Facebook about this.  Your friends and family?  OK.  But I read her post after it was shared by a bazillion people on Facebook and it just struck me as odd.  Good for her if it lets her work through her grief, though.[/quote]

This is what I thought exactly.  Beautiful but a bit strange to share beyond friends and family.[/quote]

Why?  What's wrong with sharing your grief and thoughts about grieving?  Death isn't a "bad thing"; it's part of everyone's life.  We don't have to pretend like each of us isn't affected by it and that it deeply affects us forever.  I think it's great she's sharing this and normalizing something that each of us will grapple with eventually.

Also, to PPs who are accusing Sandberg of being a neglectful wife, what makes you say that?  And more to the point, if a male CEO or COO or corporate big wig lost their wife, would there be open questions as to his level of attentiveness and affection?  Successful women are demonized at every turn.  [/quote]

Because sharing the personal with the world cheapens it, and it goes from personal thoughts to personal aggrandizement.[/quote]

I think nothing really bad ever happened to her before and she actually realizes what true suffering is now.  [/quote]

To the pp who said sharing with the world cheapens grief...everyone grieves differently. Who are you to say someone is doing it right or wrong. I am pretty anti-Sheryl Sandberg in terms of approach/lean in whatever. But grief is a universal equilizer and seeing people in prominent roles speak up about how debilitating it is I think is reassuring to people. As someone who went through some pretty serious grief in the last few years I think its helpful for public figures to put this in context. So often in our society we deal with greiving people by saying, 'hey cheer up it will get better/it was part of so and so's grand plan/x wouldn't want you to spend your life grieving.' We want to put a happy spin on everything, instead of acknowledging loss for what it is, which is devastating and sometimes requiring a complete course correction. I actually haven't read her statement because as a result of what I've gone through hearing people's raw grief tends to put me in a negative space, but I can't help but wonder why there isn't a thread about how Biden is grieving too publicly/too messily/lost out on time with his dying son because he was VP. It is uniquely womanly to tell another woman that they aren't even doing the most painful and personal of things 'correctly.'[/quote]

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