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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a son and a daughter.  And while I certainly teach them BOTH to be respectful of EVERYONE, I do plan on spending some extra time and energy with my son and teaching not only respect, but about consent, what to do if a girl is passed out (you would be amazed at how many "nice guys" think the answer is "fuck her" and not realize this is rape), what to do when his *friends* are being disrespectful and so forth.

Too many parents think treating and training their sons and daughters identically in this regard is the way to go, fair, etc, but becaues I know so many women who have been sexually assaulted by boys/guys they know, there certainly is a problem in our culture, and I want to be part of the solution, so hell yeah, I will be teaching my son about respecting girls.[/quote]

I disagree that many "nice guys" would have sex with a passed out or falling down drunk girl and not know that that is an incredibly messed up thing to do.  No *Most* guys would never, ever do that and *Most* guys want consent.

Some people think that girls who have had alcohol are immediately rendered unable to consent.  That is a far more controversial take.

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Yes, somehow we've decided that women who have had too much to drink are basically children and not responsible for their actions where sex is involved. (Although still responsible for all their other actions, such as if they get behind the wheel of a car.) Whereas men who have had too much to drink are expected to make good decisions about sex both for themselves AND for the drunk woman they are with. Because men should be in charge, I guess? What bullshit.[/quote]

The law isn't gender specific. But we mostly hear about male on female sex assault. The law protects whoever doesn't consent, and prosecutes the aggressor who doesn't get consent. The law itself does not denigrate women; commentary like yours does.[/quote]

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