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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My family, including my mother, grandmother, brother, and his family are all going on a week long vacation together. This is the first time in several years my mom has been able to go on vacation and my grandmother is becoming more feeble every year, so we were all looking forward to spending a fun week together. Well, a couple weeks ago, I was asked how I felt about my SIL's parents coming down for a couple of days to hang out with us on this vacation, while staying at a hotel. What could I say, no they can't drive somewhere and do something. I said "they can do what they want to do, I can't tell them not to do something." So, now I hear back that they are coming down on Wednesday and staying until the end of our vacation. I'm upset for myself, my child, and my mother. They will be with us for meals and activities and will completely change the dynamic. My told my brother I'm not happy and it and he said "we asked you." I think he feels bummed about it, too, but doesn't want to hurt his wife's feelings. What say you, DCUM? Am I overreacting or should I just get over it? [/quote]

They aren't exactly uninvited are they? Sounds like your SIL invited her [i]family[/i] on a family vacation. They asked and you answered. If you wanted it to be just your blood you should have said something like "How about just us this time around, grandma is getting old and we should spend as much time with her as possible, we'll go to xyz with SILs family at another time." Instead you lied and now you are put out about it.

You are overreacting and should get over it. Since you caused the situation.[/quote]

This.  You might "think" that your brother is bummed out about it, but he hasn't said so.  And he did run it by you, and while you were less than enthusiastic, you didn't raise any actual objection or explain why you wanted the vacation to be just your side of the family.  And these people were invited, by your brother and sister-in-law.  I understand why you're bummed, but I think you need to just get over it.  They aren't staying with you, and they'll probably want to do stuff with their daughter, so I doubt they will be in your hair the whole time.  [/quote]

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