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OP - SIL - I noted that your dear niece is "stretching out" her degree program.  [b]I do hope your sister and brother-in-law have made it clear to her that their financial support stops at the equivalent of four years of college so that any "stretching" will be on her paying.  Hopefully, they have learned from the fiasco of this wedding planning to let the little "princess' know their financial obligations involve so many children and have their clear limits. It is too bad this couple could not have been given the advice to wait a year after graduation and just get jobs, save and learn a little about the world of money and living.  It does sound like you niece might have some rocky roads ahead.  For  you it is best to stay out of it all together.

Your sister and BIL need to learn to put themselves first in terms of long-term retirement planning.  They are the ones who should get to a "fee based" independent certified financial planner - who makes nothing from recommendations that he/she might mention one takes in terms of their finances.  Your niece sounds like a little hussy who will put on a business suit, take  a training course and then work with clients with "her and her company's best interest in mind first and always" and screw the client's needs.  It is just the reason to stay away from any financial person who does both "advising" and "investing" for you unless you really know what is going on, have definite goals in mind and can understand "the cost" of someone handling your investments.

In our case we were very clear with our daughters that we would cover four years of undergrad education - and not any "stretch semester or year."  We also contributed the same amount for weddings.  This does not mean that we did not make individual and sensible decisions in helping our girls.   For one with health issues we did pay for her to cobra on our health insurance while in graduate school, while for the other we gave a contribution in about the same amount for her first car.[/quote]

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