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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Make sure your daughters excel in Math. This opens doors for them in high paying STEM careers.

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You can't make sure a person *excels* in math or any other subject. Either their brain is wired for that, or it's not. Also, high-paying is not everything in life. Going for something that makes you happy is much more important, IMO.[/quote]

Math can be learned by anyone as long as it is taught well. Women tend to shy away from Math and that is a big detriment to their future earning.  A high paying job is more essential for a female than a male. Mainly because of the fact that they give birth and usually take care of the kids.

Sons are given tangible goals by parents -" become good in xyz sports; get into xyz college; become a lawyer, doctor, engineer, hedgefund manager".  Daughters are given intangible goals like "be happy".  Well, it is harder to get to intangible goals.  So, make them financially independent and capable of becoming the breadwinner of their household.   The rest will hopefully follow.[/quote]

I am a female math PhD.  I don't think it's genetic.

That said if you want a high paying, secure career, study medicine.  My DH is a doctor and made more out of training than most mathematicians I know who are retirement age.  I will not be directing my own daughter to math, to the extent that I have influence.

Oh, and all you people out here encouraging your daughters to be SAHMs, you are awful.[/quote]

I am the "Math for Girls" pp above.

[b] There is nothing wrong in being SAHMs or WOHMs.  However, women need to be financially independent  and know how to manage and grow their investments.   Money gives women options to WOHM or SAHM.

To have no money of your own as a SAHM or to live paycheck to paycheck as a WOHM sucks.[/b]

If you choose to work, then be in a position that you can command a good salary.  Math opens doors for you.   Even if you want to go into medical field.

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YES to the bolded.  All you have to do is read the "Relationships" forum or the "Family Relationships" forum for a few days to see the negative impacts of women who don't have their own money or the means to making their own money.  Affairs, domestic violence, just generally miserable marriages... all continued or tolerated because women can't feed their kids or provide housing on their own if they leave.  Or even just so many women's self-perception that they're helpless, even when they're not.

SAHMs are great, go for it if you can.  But the people saying "don't feel the need to have a fancy degree or a job or professional skills", the degree doesn't have to be fancy, but you should ALWAYS have options.  You NEVER know what will happen in your relationship, no matter how good it is right now.  Too many women get stuck and feel they can't move because they didn't finish college or save some emergency money of their own.

You want to talk basic life skills to teach your daughter: always having a way to be able to be ok and stable if you're on your own is a MUST.  And that usually includes at least a college education (or equivalent skill development, like in a specific field), or your own savings separate from marital savings/joint accounts.[/quote]

The point was that you don't need a fancy degree or high paying job, not that you don't need to have anything. You don't need to find your value in professional accomplishments.[/quote]

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