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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Make sure he is handy, can find his way around a proper tool box[/b], is kind, considerate, ambitious.  [/quote]

Actually I wish my parents had taught ME how to me more handy (their daughter). My father is very handy, and my husband is the same way. I went from having my father do everything for me, to having boyfriends or male friends (some female friends) do things for me, and now my husband. I've gotten better (and even have my own tool box :) ), but always felt like an idiot and basically incompetent when it came to basics like changing a tire, hanging a curtain rod, installing shelves, etc. I love my dad, and have great appreciation that he has always been there for me...but I wish he'd thought to teach me how to do these things (or I'd thought to learn at a younger age).

That said, I'm always quite secure that almost anything that needs to be done around our house can be done by my husband. Or his dad, or my dad. It's a nice feeling; so you're right that it's good for a guy to be handy. [/quote]

But not every woman ends up with a guy at all, or a guy forever.  I was single more than I was partnered in my 20s and 30s, and I learned how to do tons of things myself (my taxes, changing headlight bulbs in my car, computer stuff, other car stuff, fixing things around the house).  Then when I was partnered but my boyfriend/father of our child already had a condo and not the best credit, I learned all about buying my first house and financing.

Even though I'm married now (to the same boyfriend) and he's incredibly handy (he's a firefighter and EMT, so he has all sorts of great helpful skills!), it's still a relief to me and I'll model it for our daughter that heaven forbid we break up, or anything every happened, I would not suddenly be helpless or clueless.  So sure, handy men are nice... but I am definitely raising my daughter to be handy herself, she should never be lost just because she doesn't have a guy to do something.[/quote]

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