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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. He drinks 1-2 nights on the weekend (1 night only lately), a 4 or 6 pack on each occasion (it is fancy high-proof beer, like 8% alcohol). I think that his actual consumption may be in the normal realm of male behavior, but what is troubling to me is that if there is alcohol in the house he will drink it until it's gone. It would be difficult for him to buy a bottle of wine and save it for more than a week. So he's not, like, drinking during the day, getting fired from work, etc. He can go out to dinner with me and not drink so that he drives us both home. But, like someone else said, there seems to be a voice in his head that tells him to "drink drink drink" whenever alcohol is in our house. [/quote],

I have been through this exact situation, but my husband drank every night with hard alcohol mixed in.  It took me years to realize what he was doing, because I worked a lot and I could not tell that he was drunk (he hides it very well).[b]  It took me about three years to moderate his drinking. [/b] I was furious with him.  While there was never any evidence of physical dependence, I thought it was inevitable at the rate he was going.  Two things helped: intense therapy for OCD, since he loved his drinking rituals, and an emphasis on giving him lots of external cues on how much he was drinking.  No hard alcohol, no boxed wine.  He can look at a bottle of wine and see that it's half gone, or three empty beer bottles, and know that he's had enough.  90 percent of the time the drinking is only on the weekend.  [/quote]

Wow. You did that singlehandedly? [/quote]

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