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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]19 & 45[/quote]
What, you're a same sex couple 26 years apart or are you a woman and these are your first and second husbands?[/quote]

The question was when did the husband become a father, not the wife.  He had two marriages.  He had round #1 at 19, round #2 at 45.[/quote]

Then he wasn't a first time dad at 45.....[/quote]

Depends on how you look at it.[/quote]

I think it is very telling that in your opinion your child was his first child. Guess you don't like the first child too much?[/quote]

Heh...I wonder: is our Autistic Poster back again? Such literalism!

Look, it may also be that while he was [i]technically[/i] a father at 19, he may never have had any contact or involvement with the child...ever.  In which case, from a practical lifestyle and experience standpoint: no, he was not a father.  It may have had nothing whatsoever to do with liking or not liking the child.  He may have been uninvolved with any children until he had one at 45.

In the not too distant past it was not uncommon for teen pregnancies to be given up for adoption or for the fathers to not even be told they were fathers.  I know one guy who found out in his late 30s about a daughter for the first time - who was 8 at the time - when the state came after him for child support; the mother had never told him and didn't tell him even when she gave his name to the state in order to continue getting benefits.  [/quote]

Why are you making it so complicated? It is obvious to everyone else that "became a father for the first time" means "the first time you fathered a child". So for this guy, it was 19. He was not a first-time father at 45, and I don't understand how you could argue otherwise. (And it does not bolster your viewpoint to refer to other posters as "autistic"). WTF?[/quote]

What does autism have to do with anything?   And, my husband was very involved, payed child support and tons of extras despite his ex making it very difficult.  Good try.  We waited till child support was over before having our kids.  No impact on the first set of kids.[/quote]

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