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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"It occurred to us, from observation and reasoning, that extramarital sex was not what really destroyed marriages, but rather the lies and deception that invariably accompanied it -- that was the culprit. So we decided to give ourselves permission to sleep with other partners if we wished -- as long as what we did was honest as well as private, and that neither of us exposed the family to scandal or disease. We had to be discreet and, if the word can be apt, honorable in our behavior, both to ourselves, to whomever else might be involved, and most of all, to the family. And for the most part, we were."

-- Ossie Davis[/quote]

What a load of crap.

The idea of an open marriage full of wonder and free of hostility or jealousy is an absurd fantasy. If your spouse openly cheats on you, without "lies and deception", you will feel extreme anger, jealousy, and desire for revenge if you are a normal human being.

What is the point of such a "marriage" anyway? A loveless business partnership?[/quote]

My husband has a low sex drive. He has two choices: allow our marriage to be open, or for us to divorce.  We went to counseling for months, and that's what we and the counselor concluded. H feels sadness at some points that he's not enough for me, but doesn't feel anger or desire for revenge.  I undersold my need for a strong sexual connection in marriage, and he oversold his drive.  We love each other and have built a life together that we are interested in continuing.[/quote]

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