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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am just laughing at all this bellyaching about men losing money.  Listen, men, you are falling behind women.  We are getting degrees at higher rates and only misogyny and the marriage penalty for women in the workplace is keeping your status as higher earning half secure.  That will change.  If anything, it is women who have to worry about financial matters in marriage, especially if we have children.  How many deadbeat dads exist in the world?  Deadbeat moms are a rare species.

Constantly carrying on about how much men stand to lose in marriage is silly and doesn't take into account the changing reality.  There are plenty of women nowadays paying ne'er do well husbands alimony, and joint custody is increasingly the norm over sole custody.  Often, sole custody is awarded because the husband didn't want custody lest he cramp his new bachelor lifestyle.

Besides, marriage is not compulsory.  Stay single.  Die earlier.  Studies show unmarried men are shortlived across the board in comparison to married women, single women, and married men.  Single women, however, live longest.  So, you are doing us women a favor by not marrying us, lol.  :-D[/quote]

Yep. I am a young woman (25) and after working for a family law firm, I would never, EVER get married without a prenup.  The wage gap is expected to flip and I think men in general are inherently more lazy, more self interested than women.  At the firm we saw a lot of men who basically wanted to use the kids as leverage to get to their ex.  They would fight tooth and nail for some item that was worthless but meant a lot to the wife because "it's the principle of the thing."  Most of the women, on the other hand, were mainly concerned with the kids and doing right by them and not worried about being vindictive or "getting even". I learned a lot about the nature of men and it wasn't pretty.

The good thing is, most of the people who got divorced and didn't try to be petty or vindictive actually got better settlements and also ended up happier a year after the divorce.  So all in all, the women generally came out on top, despite the attempts of their exes.  I think this generally holds true for life: the testosterone infused, "what's in it for me" attitude usually is no path to happiness.[/quote]
[b]Your view might be skewed but I do think women can get just as vindictive and petty in divorce settlements. Plus because they usually get custody, they can make it difficult or impossible for the ex to spend time with the kids.  [/b]That I did see happen, and I think it's terribly unfair to men. [/quote]

This is the truth. I am surprised  that anyone would even question that this happens all the time.[/quote]

She questioned it because she just wanted men to look bad or worst than women.  Men can do some vindictive things but make no mistake, the worst thing a woman can do is falsely say that a man is the father of a child she knows isn't his for whatever reason she has. Happens all the time in western countries and that right there is worst than anything a man can do in "vindictive" terms...not adding in abuse and such.[/quote]

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