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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is the female analog to the frequent male complaint of "women like Bad Boys and don't like Nice Guys."

This reflects a misunderstanding of what the other sex wants. "Bad Boys" are often roguishly handsome, funny, have an aura of competence and are exciting in bed. Women are attracted to these positive traits, not necessarily the fact that these guys are "bad." A lot of Nice Guys lack these positive traits despite being "nice."

The analog to this is the professionally accomplished thirty-something woman who observes that men keep falling for women who are "beneath them" socially, and career wise. But this reflects a lack of understanding of what men find attractive. Men don't evaluate women the same way women evaluate men. Men don't expect women to have a high social status, career or lots of money. Men are overwhelmingly focused on looks and personality.

A fun, sweet and physically attractive young barista is more attractive to most men than a not-so-attractive, but well-paid, professional who has lots of education, which she likes to show off, and generally has an unpleasantly entitled personality.

Just like the Nice Guys, these women often have a sense of entitlement that they deserve a certain class of men because of their accomplishments and they end up being lonely and resentful because they all end up competing for the same tiny population of unicorns who frequently end up marrying a younger woman anyway.

Nice Guys and Accomplished Woman: You don't get to dictate what the other sex finds attractive.[/quote]

The major difference, I'd say, is that men are pretty up front about what they want. Much more common for women to say they want a funny guy with compassion and integrity then not pick that guy when he's available. Much less common for a guy to say he wants a funny girl with compassion and integrity. Guys are much more likely to say they want a girl who is hot and fun. Doubtful he'd pass her up if she was available. [/quote]

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