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You are right. He is playing son, not acting like a grown-up. You could offer to pay for the hotel but not the flights. They are oblivious if they actually expect you to do both. But there are much bigger issues here and they are about your husband, not your in-laws.

Your options:

1. Expect this to happen about everything involving his parents, for the rest of your married life. Enjoy taking second place to mom and dad! You can look forward to a lifetime of resentment and expense. This time it's the baptism. You still have junior's first communion, first day of school, soccer tournament, whatever, to enjoy, with the in-laws by your side after you've paid for their flights!

2. Tell husband it's time for couples counseling. There is no way that it's JUST baptisms that make his parents and him this unreasonable. Isn't it part of a larger pattern where he does what they want to keep the peace? And maybe a pattern where what they want trumps what his wife wants? And a pattern where expense doesn't matter as long as they're happy? That's going to be great for the old college fund.....See past the one event and the one cost and look at whether his intransigence and kowtowing to his parents needs work right now, or else....see No. 1, above.
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+1.  Do not cave on this!  Otherwise you will have to pay every single time they want to come out, on their airline of choice.  Your DH has to see that that is insane.  If he doesn't, sit him down for a budget talk and ask what he's willing to give up to fund this.[/quote]

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