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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Marriage isn't for some people. Marriage and  children aren't for others. Internet strangers can really help you know if you belong to either of these groups. All we know is you were involved with someone who didn't want either when you did - or who did, when you didn't. It sounds like you're still feeling unhappy about what happened with your relationship.

Since you're asking for perspective and advice, here's mine. When people make men vs. women comments ("I can understand the sexes might be split on this"), that tends to indicate the interpersonal issue was affected at least in part by some sort of skewed thinking.[/quote]

Thanks for weighing in. The good thing is that you are wrong. I am neither "unhappy" nor was there a relationship of such. The bad thing is that you still have not answered the questions from your personal experiences.

My questions are motivated by years of introspection, self-reflection, and now months of reading DCUM   :shock: not directly related to my recent experiences. The 'dodged a bullet' tag was in reference to the unanimous opinion coming out of a recent thread I started (no point coloring this thread with the dye from that one, but suffice it to say I am the same OP at this point in my life where I am happy with me).

Skewed thinking is quite normal given our experience here in the Western world where ex-husbands and fathers consistently walk away from divorce proceedings poorer, while their former partners often benefit from what they never worked for, or more than if they had not divorced. In other words, Family Law in Western and more so American jurisprudence, is now skewed against men thanks to what happened 40-50 years ago with the rise of Radical Feminism particularly.

So with that clarification, how and when did you know that marriage and/or parenting are/aren't for you? Or are you ambivalent?

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Don't ever get married or have kids.  This post proves why you shouldn't - narcissistic tendencies.  Marriage is teamwork - not one vs. the other.  All of your pseudo- intellectual talk ("western jurisprudence") won't cover for the fact that you can't envision a marriage of equals or teamwork and would devalue the contributions of a woman.[/quote]

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