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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here. As a FTM, it's possible OP isn't comfortable caring for both children. Think back to when you had your firstborn, in the first few months of their life; it's somehow all-encompassing - remember when you could barely brush your teeth or sit downfor a decent meal? In retrospect, when we get into a groove, our child gets older and particularly when we add another child to the mix, it's hard to remember how and why it felt so hard, and like so much work - but c'mon, we've all been there. I remember sometimes feeding could take up to an hour with my firstborn, then a couple hours I was hearing up to feed him again. So maybe cut OP a bit of slack as a FTM.[/quote]

If that's the case, then OP is clearly wrong coming here and blaming the SIL for her mother's exhaustion.  OP has been there a week, enjoying her mother's hospitality and help and wearing out her mother.  SIL has been there one day after taking a redeye with a toddler then getting a few hours of sleep while her MIL watched her son as promised.  She came out early to visit because her MIL wanted to spend time with her grandson and agreed to watch the grandson while she worked.  So, she took a nap instead of working.  OP still is in the wrong blaming SIL for the problems.  OP needs to either be an adult and take responsibility for helping her mother cope or admit that she's part of the problem instead of trying to blame it all on the SIL.

Additionally, while I would agree with you for a newborn, but by 7-8 months, it's already starting to get better.  At [b]10 months[/b], yes, it's still a lot of work, but it shouldn't be at the same level as the first couple of months with the sleep deprivation.  At that point, most children are sleeping at least 4-6 hours at a stretch instead of 2-3 hours.  Plus, she's had her mother helping her for a week.

Right now, OP is just a spoiled entitled child who is getting catty, territorial and won't share her mother with her SIL and nephew.[/quote]

OP has a 10 week old, not a 10 month old, so OP, as a FTM, is clearly still in the newborn phase with the sleep deprivation.  [/quote]

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